When we redid our children’s facility a few years back, I took that opportunity to change lots of things. One of the things I made sure we did was make our values clear and transportable. I want to always make sure that why we do what we do stays at the front of our minds. It’s very easy for us to forget why we do what we do. We have to constantly remember why we do what we do. Every week when I meet with my team between services, we go over one of our “Be Attitudes.”
I want to break down for you what our Be Attitudes are:
1. Be Safe
2. Be Courteous
3. Be Engaging
4. Be Consistent
1. Be Safe
When working with kids, you can never be too safe. My perspective is safety has to be paramount in all we do. If parents don’t feel their kid will be safe, they will not bring them. If kids do not feel safe, they won’t stay. If kids don’t come or won’t stay, nothing we do matters. Life change in our context will not happen.
I thought I would post what some of our safety procedures are and ask for feedback as to what you guys do or don’t do.
1. Check-in – We use Fellowship One. I researched all the church databases out there on the market a few years ago, and Fellowship One was just getting started but were already BY FAR the most kid focused/ kid safe program out there. Each family each week gets a randomly generated alpha numeric code printed on a sticker that the parents have to match to the kiddo sticker. Very safe and very fast.
2. In the hall. No person is allowed in the wing were our kids classes take place without a Fellowship One name-tag. The only people that are allowed are approved volunteers, children of the appropriate age, and parents.
3. All workers must fill out an application and have abackground check performed.
4. We never change diapers or assist kids in the bathroom.
5. Kids are not allowed to leave their environment until a parent or guardian picks up their child by displaying their matching name-tag code.
PARENT RECEIPT
CHILD NAMETAG
6. We do tours for adults wishing to see our children’s ministry environments AFTER all the kiddos are gone.
7. If we ever need to page parents, we text them using our church’s Google voice account.
Some people have not liked these changes. But I am committed more than ever to BE SAFE.
2. Be Courteous
Why courteous? Because, like safety, being courteous deals with initial impressions given to new guests and long-time guests alike. We believe that being courteous will go a long way to battle the presuppositions about church and God. We want every kid to know that God loves them and has a plan for them.
How can we practically “Be Courteous”:
1. Smile all the time!
2. Greet each guest by name and try to greet each parent by name.
3. If any guest needs anything we show not tell
4. We are committed to go the extra mile to create an environment where lifechange is possible.
3. Be Engaging
This is one of the big ones for me. Most children’s ministries have the safe thing in mind and are courteous. Being engaging puts you in a totally different ballpark. I know in our kids’ ministry, engagement is something I really want to see.
A couple of years ago, we redid our kids wing (plug JMC, plugworlds of wow). I realized one thing early on: Theme-ing your kids wing is great, but engagement is better. I want to change the way we do church in our kids’ ministry and in other kids’ ministries across the nation. I think we need to engage kids from the moment they step foot on our campus.
As children’s workers, we need to look beyond our children’s ministry culture at times to see how we are limiting ourselves by what has always been done. We need to pray and ask God to open our eyes and ears to see what we are doing that we may think is great but is not engaging the kids we are seeking to reach with the greatest message on earth.
What we are not doing: Putting all our time and effort into one or two big events. What if rather than having five nights of VBS, you made every weekend like VBS? Large events create a bait and switch situation where they experience this crazy awesome, budget busting event only to come back next Sunday to a marginal experience. We have huge cool events and Sunday is a drag. Stop it. Take the money you would use on events and get the volunteers to commit to make Sunday the best.
What we are doing: We are implementing the following formula if you will.
1. Everyone connects with kids all the time.
2. We have a pre-service show. Connect with kids through characters and activities. (We are still working on this one)
3. Main service: We make the Bible story and small group time relational with kids connecting to their leader and each other.
4. We have a post-service show. Connect with kids and parents through character performances, give-aways, and one-on-one interaction.
5. At the end of the day, each volunteer needs to have a name and a face of a kid whose life they impacted through intentional engagement.
Eye contact, knowing a kiddos name, candy, and creative planning go a long way to engaging kids on their level.
I am by no means suggesting that you should do what we are attempting to do. But I will say this: Whatever you do BE ENGAGING. Make it fun, make it memorable, make it stick. As Sue Miller would say “Make it the best hour of their week.”
4. Be Consistent
In the church world, there is always a lot of talk about closing the back door. My take is make the front door larger, and once they enter the front door, make the experience memorable and lifechanging that they can’t wait to come back next week.
I think consistency gets a bad rap. When most of us think “consistent,” we tend to think “boring.” When I think of consistent, I think of Disney. You know what you are going to get, and they set the expectation bar very high. I recently went to Disney for 2 days a few weeks ago. I hadn’t been there in 16 years. Nothing had changed, yet everything was different. They have mastered the art of keeping the constants constant and changing just enough for things to feel fresh and to leave you wondering what will be different next time you come visit.
We as children’s workers need to be consistent in our message, values, and principles, and we need to be every changing in our methods, presentations, and containers that hold the never-changing truth of God’s Word.
So Uptown workers, and anyone else reading this. Lets build high expectations. Lets keep the constants…constant, and the changables…..changable.
I leave you with this thought from the Apostle Paul on what should change and what shouldn’t.
1Cor. 9:22 To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, that I may by all means save some.
1Cor. 9:23 And I do all things for the sake of the gospel, that I may become a fellow partaker of it.
1Cor. 9:24 Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win.
1Cor. 9:25 And everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
1Cor. 9:26 Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air..